Did you know that 50-70% of language is unspoken? Our bodies reflect our true state of mind and during interviews and cold-calling it’s probably like a blinking red light that says…VERY NERVOUS! It’s often because of our nerves, that we have no idea our physical “message” is running counter to what we’re actually saying. For example, you may be talking about your capable leadership skills while not being able to look the interviewer in the eye. Your words and your body language need to match despite your inner turmoil!
To help keep your confidence up, keep this in mind:
- You wouldn’t have been asked for an interview if you didn’t already have the skills and abilities the employer is looking for.
- When cold-calling the very fact you came in-person is hugely impressive for employers
- SMILE! and show sincere warmth, since most employers get a distinct impression of you within the first few seconds this can offset nervousness and immediately make a good impression.
- Most employers want to hire you! They don’t want to waste time in the interview process so the quicker they can make a decision the better.
Now what is your body language really saying?
Action: Hands in pockets
Action: Touching your neck
Action: Touching or rubbing nose
Meaning: Rejection, doubt or lying
Action: Rubbing eye
Meaning: Doubt or disbelief
Action: Hands clasped behind back
Meaning: Anger, apprehension
Action: Locked ankles
Action: Rubbing hands
Action: Patting / Fondling hair
Meaning: Lack of self-confidence
Action: Looking down face turned away
Meaning: Lack of confidence and disbelief
Action: Biting nails
Meaning: Insecurity, nervousness
Action: Pulling or tugging at ear
If you’re not sure whether you’re doing these things try recording yourself or have a friend watch you while answering interview questions. Remember everyone feels some insecurity at some point it’s just a matter of how you project those feelings.
Stay tuned for the next post on how to become a body language superhero!